Years and years of this convince us by the time we are adults that learning and doing are two separate events, and one precedes the other. Never let self-doubt keep you from a learning opportunity. Instead, use it as a signpost of learning opportunities and take advantage of every one you can.
Recognizing those feelings of self-doubt as a sign of great possibilities will help you to lean in when your instinct is to run away. Kris Kelso is an executive coach, leadership advisor and keynote speaker based in Nashville, Tenn.
An indispensable guide to finance, investing and entrepreneurship. Kris Kelso. Photo courtesy of Shutterstock. High self-efficacy is good because unless we truly believe we can produce the result we want, we have little incentive to try stuff in the first place or persevere in the face of challenges. Over the past few decades, multiple cross-sectional and longitudinal studies have proven that high self-efficacy has a positive influence on salary, job satisfaction, and career success.
Why is it so important? Bandura and others have found self-efficacy plays a major role in how we approach goals and challenges. This is particularly true for late bloomers. Mastery experiences are instances of mastering a task or achieving a goal, such as acing a class or test, dominating a sport, or nailing a job interview.
The other source of self-efficacy, social modeling, is when we see people similar to ourselves succeed, raising our belief that we too possess the capabilities to excel in life. However, late bloomer success stories garner little attention in our world, which focuses excessive attention on the precociously talented and youthfully ambitious.
This belief is the very foundation of translating self-doubt into motivation and information. Self-talk shapes our relationships with ourselves, allowing us to try to see things more objectively.
We can improve self-efficacy through something we already do: Talk. We all talk ourselves through situations, good and bad. Objectivity can be enormously beneficial for late bloomers, helping us overcome the negative cultural messages we receive from family, friends and society.
Positive self-talk and its relationship to self-efficacy has been a topic of intense study for sports psychologists. Researcher Antonis Hatzigeorgiadis and his team at the University of Thessaly in Greece studied water polo players and how self-talk affected their ability in throwing a ball for accuracy and distance.
The players using motivational self-talk significantly improved at both tasks versus the others, and the study showed that motivational self-talk dramatically increased both self-efficacy and performance. The power of self-talk has been conclusively demonstrated in fields beyond sports, including management, counseling, psychology, education and communication.
In studies, it has been shown to improve self-efficacy and performance in tasks ranging from throwing darts and softballs to increasing vertical leaps. By using external pronouns, we view ourselves as a separate person, enabling us to give ourselves more objective advice. How we refer to ourselves in our self-talk can also make a difference. It's the storm, the shaking, the questions that bring evidence to the fortitude of a foundation.
Without the storm in life, we won't be able to tell whether our faith is truly founded on Christ or not. Questions and doubts can lead us closer to Christ if we truly seek the truth. As God promises in Jeremiah , "You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart. We can have doubts without being unbelieving. In fact, many people in the Bible who were marked by faith had questions of their own.
Gideon asked for assurance through a sign and God miraculously worked through a fleece. Rahab asked for assurance of her safety and God worked through a scarlet cord. In fact, doubting faith that seeks for evidence, signs and truth will always work better than blind belief that simply just "receives," not knowing whether we are receiving false teaching or verified truth. There is nothing wrong with having doubts as long as it leads us to search for God instead of running away from God. We can doubt and still believe.
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